The culture understands how to deal with the radicals/rebels in the counterculture. The counterculture is a product of...
Posted by Jim Sharp on Wednesday, January 13, 2016
We all have crap detectors that send us inner nudges that tell us when we're lying to ourselves. By lying to ourself, I mean conforming to a cultural story rather than our own inner wisdom. There are 3 general paths we can take, 1. accept the cultures ideals 2. become a product of the counter culture and never really fit in or 3. follow our inner nudges and live "authentically us" lives.
Our culture rewards conformity and we call these the "good" kids. We reward them following all the rules and following all of the culture's ideals. Then the "good" kids perpetuate the war stereotype against those kids who rebel. It's an unconsious recruitment routine.
If kids are rebelling, this is a good sign that their inner crap detector is working and they are acting on it. The next step is help children follow their inner voice and co-mingle with the culture.
This isn't a fix all for parenting. There is the balance of responsibility, what we give our children and what we allow them to be responsible for.
This is a huge reason I am a fan of soul friending with teenagers, rather than counseling. Counseling offers a psychological approach, which creates a process to follow that doesn't necessarily lead to an authentic approach to life. Soul friending offers young people a safe place to offer their truth and feel heard.