Our culture victimizes the codependent and villainizes the narcissist (counterdependent). Two quick points. In the victim role, the codependent doesn't work on their bug-a-boo and the narcissist simply isn't paying attention. It's about rooting out where being anything but interdependent is harmful to any relationship.
There is a lot at play in this interaction. This video is me talking about the hidden resentment bottled up over time by the codependent.
Codependency - Considering others feelings before ourselves
Interdependency - The balance of our feelings and the feelings of others
Counterdependency - Considering our feelings before others